You Know You Want To Judge Me!

judgment-counterjudgmentHi everyone!

Today’s post is very appropriate as Fat Talk Free Week is coming to a close. Check out the video—it has a wonderful message.

It’s about JUDGMENT.



Let’s face it. We judge. Not only others, but we judge ourselves as well. These are some of the ways I judge:


“Wow, that woman really shouldn’t be wearing such a revealing, tight blouse.”

“Oh, my God! I’m so fat that I can’t even zip up these pants anymore!”

“They are too conceited and obnoxious. Who do they think they are?”

“If only I was more ambitious, I could be making more money right now.”


As you can see, most of these judgments are negative and are putting someone down. Honestly, I do see myself as a positive and optimistic person. But when I think about all the negative judgments that go through my head in a day, it makes me second guess myself.


Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s all about to change!!!


Nothing will stop a judgment but the AWARENESS that it is indeed a judgment. In Geneen Roth’s book Breaking Free from Compulsive Eating, she states, “When I tell myself I’m fat, my response is to eat more, not less.” How true is this? Negative thoughts only bring on more negative behavior.

Judgments alone do not lead to change. Change can only happen if we actively participate in our lives. The process of mentally, emotionally, and physically joining ourselves on this journey will create awareness.

We have to learn HOW to work with our judgments so that we don’t continually live in REACTION to them.

TRY THIS! Write a list of negative judgments that you have. Then for every judgment, write a positive counter judgment.

For example, here’s my list:



Just writing it out is very therapeutic. Try to challenge your judgments with your counter judgments anytime you feel the urge to judge.


Instead of living passively in reaction to our judgments, it is time for us to take control and have a positive attitude. You can train your mind to think positively. After a while, it will be natural. A positive attitude causes a CHAIN REACTION of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a CATALYST…a spark that creates extraordinary results!


Do you have awareness when you judge? Have you tried the “Judgment—Counter Judgment list”? Did it work for you?


October 25, 2009. counterjudgment, first post, judgment, negative thoughts, positive thoughts. 4 comments.